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You Can Start a Revolution in Your Family . . . Tonight

ScreamFree Parenting is not just about lowering your voice. It’s about learning to calm your emotional reactions and learning to focus on your own behavior more than your kids’ behavior . . . for their benefit. Our biggest enemy as parents is not the TV, the Internet, or even drugs. Our biggest enemy is our own emotional reactivity. When we say we “lost it” with our kids, the “it” in that sentence is our own adulthood. And then we wonder why our kids have so little respect for us, why our kids seem to have all the power in the family.

It’s time to do it differently. And you can. You can start to create and enjoy the types of calm, mutually respectful, and loving relationships with your kids that you’ve always craved. You can begin to revolutionize your family, starting tonight.

Parenting is not about kids, it’s about parents.
If you’re not in control, then you cannot be in charge.
What every kid really needs are parents who are able to keep their cool no matter what.

Easier said than done? Not anymore, thanks to ScreamFree Parenting, the principle-based approach that’s inspiring parents everywhere to truly revolutionize their family dynamics. Moving beyond the child-centered, technique-based approaches that ultimately fail, the ScreamFree way compels you to:

focus on yourself
calm yourself down, and
grow yourself up

By staying calm and connected with your kids, you begin to operate less out of your deepest fears and more out of your highest principles, revolutionizing your relationships in the process.

ScreamFree Parenting is not just another parenting book. It’s the first parenting
book that maintains—from beginning to end—that parenting is NOT about kids . . . it’s about parents. As parents pay more attention to controlling their own behavior instead of their kids’ behavior, the result is stronger, more rewarding, and more fulfilling family relationships.

For those of you reading who are parents, know parents, or have had parents, the notion that the greatest thing you can do for your children is to learn to focus on yourself may sound strange, even heretical. It’s not. Here’s why: we are the only ones we can control. We cannot control our kids—we cannot control the behavior of any other human being. And yet, so many “experts” keep giving us more tools (“techniques”) to help us try to do just that. And, of course, the more we try to control, the more out of control our children become.

“Don’t make me come up there.” “Don’t make me pull this car over.” “How many times do I have to tell you?” Even our language suggests that our kids have control over us.
It’s no wonder that we end up screaming. Or shutting down. Or simply giving up. And the charts, refrigerator magnets, family meetings, and other techniques in most typical parenting books just don’t work. They end up making us feel more frustrated and more powerless in this whole parenting thing.

This practical, effective guide for parents of all ages with kids of all ages introduces proven principles for overcoming the anxieties and stresses of parenting and setting new patterns of connection and cooperation. Well-written in an engaging, conversational tone, the book is sensible, straightforward, and based on the experiences of hundreds of actual families. It will help all parents become calming authorities in their homes, bring peace to their families today, and give kids what they need to grow into caring, self-directed adults tomorrow.

Average Customer Rating:

Not Impressed

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OK, I bought and read ScreamFree Parenting and have to say I was unimpressed. He really does not give you any "action oriented" parenting advice and I could probably boil the book down to a few bullet points: 1. Work on keeping yourself calm in the face of children melting down. 2. Give them latitude to be themselves, learn privacy, and make better choices (read very much like free-spirit parenting of the 60's, including suggestions that you allow your teenage daughter to have boys in her room with the door closed, because you trust her and respect her privacy -- yeah, right). 3. Force children to suffer consequences for their decisions, even if it's difficult for you, as the parent, to follow through with those consequences. I can't say I would recommend this to anyone -- even getting a library copy would be a stretch, as there are much better parenting books available.

Great Advise	Customer Rating:
This was very helpfull. I read this book and then shared it with my daughter. My children are grown and I help with my grandchildren, I think this is a very helpful book. I really enjoyed reading it.

waste of time and money	Customer Rating:
All this book gives you is advice that you need to make a change. There are barely any tools and advice on how to change. I need examples on what to say instead of SCREAMING my head off and threats. A waste of time and money in my opinion. Too wordy and not enough clear cut advice.

Must Have 4 Every Parent	Customer Rating:
Just get the book! Easy read for both moms and dads. Don't be that crazy person who yells at the kid. Buy the book and pick up a copy of "Just tell me what to say"

Great insights into parenting

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I thought this was a great book on CD, one that really made me think. There are some folks who wrote 1 star reviews that wanted to have step by step directions in how to implement these ideas, but that is somewhat difficult when the main idea is to focus on yourself and not react to your child's behavior. Also, being a parent of a two year old, I realize there are no formulas on how to be a parent, no "do this first, then do that..." kind of instruction. So if you're looking for that kind of advice, this may not be the book to read. But I doubt you're going to find that anywhere anyway. Each chapter has reflection questions which are valuable, and ways the author tries to make his philosophy practical and useable. The author also reads the book, and has a good delivery and is very listenable.